some unnecessary words spoken to children

Simple sentence that comes out of your mouth when you're frustrated parents can have a major impact.


"Words can be painful and can not be pulled back, so be careful," said Debbie Pincus, a therapist, parenting coach and author of "The Calm Parent: AM & PM".


"We're human. Our lives are crazy and sometimes we do not give time to rest and think to yourself," said Pincus. "Just be careful and responsible, with anyone we speak."




Here are five things that parents should not be spoken to their child.



"I do not care."
Young children love to tell about everything. About their conversation with his friends, form a cloud that they taste like sea snakes, the reason they push the entire contents of toothpaste into the tub.


But sometimes parents do not want to listen to them. Do not ever say you do not care about their stories. That would make the children feel important and eliminate the sense of trust.


ADVICE: Tell your child that the problem could be addressed at a later time, when you can focus on the child's speech. But do not bad-faith. Do not forget to discuss.


"You're a teenager!"
Your daughter is 7 years old but still act should a child age 3. Never blame acted as he said "You're already big!" This will make the children feel when they could be criticized for being a problem and need help to solve them.



ADVICE: "When you want to react, take a minute lag time," said Pincus. Consider carefully the impact of your words, so not a spontaneous reaction of origin. Breaks to help lower the adrenaline so the brain can not think without emotion.


"Apologize!"
Your child grabbing his friend and made ​​her cry. You will direct the child to apologize for his actions. You did mean noble, but forcing children to apologize for not teaching them social skills, says Bill Corbett, author and educator.


Small children can not immediately understand why they should apologize. When was always told, they could have been more slow to understand the reason to apologize when you've done a bad action


ADVICE: Apologize to a child who is made to cry by your child, so that at the same time you give him a good example of behavior to be implanted.



"Why can not too?"
You teach a child to catch the ball five times in a row, and he has not advanced as well. Or, when learning about math, he did not understand kunjug. You immediately ask "can not cook, too?" These comments are going to drop their mental.


For, as Jill said Laurean learning experts, the children will catch it with a different question. They will think you are asking "Why can not too? What is wrong with you that can not? "


ADVICE: Take a break. If you already do not know another way to teach a child about something, stop. Continue the lesson when you're ready to try again, perhaps after seeking another approach to teaching whatever your child is learning.


"Left for a minute!"
Your child refuses to leave the toy store or the park, while you are late for appointments. So you give an ultimatum to scare him: "Left ya!" For younger children, parents fear abandonment is something very real. But what happens when the threat did not work? Child quickly learns that the father or mother gives empty threats.


ADVICE: Do not tell the child that you will abandon them. Instead, make travel plans (from a toy store to the next) before departing from home.


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